Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Men are from Mars

So a few days ago, my DH said he didn't want to talk about our son as much. It makes me sad, but I love my husband. Men are just so different than women. He told me that he thinks he needs to be the stronger one between the two of us but he thinks when I talk about it -it helps me. When he talks about it - he is sad. We'll I'm sad too. Women are just more open with their feelings. :)

I decided not to talk to him much about the baby over the last few days. He doesn't like me on the online forums, but really the women on there are the only ones I can talk to.

I posted yesterday on the online forum (IC) asking if women with only children in heaven are considered moms. I asked my DH the other day if he considers himself a dad. He didn't know what to say. I do consider myself a mom as I have a son that is buried that I visit in the cemetary. I think most of my friends would not consider me a mom. Society is very sad. Most don't know that we buried our son, they probably consider m/c's not real babies. Again, I don't feel that way, but I'm sure that is how most people in our society look at it. Anyway, this topic should be its own topic and a slight tangent.... :)

So yesterday, my DH told me he wanted to release a balloon that I had given him for Valentine's Day, that said 'Love'. I just looked at him very surprised. He then said we could release it for Tyler. I'm not sure if that was his intent at first. I just said ok and we walked outside - I was in my pajamas as I work from home and most of yesterday I was at home.
We walked out into the backyard and released it and it started taking off. It was really windy here yesterday. We ran to the front yard to see where it went - we felt it probably got stuck on a tree. It was. It was stuck in our neighboors tree. I told DH to keep watching it that it would unstick itself. Sure enough, if did right then. Normally, it probably would be stuck there for days, but like I said - it was windy yesterday. It took off really fast and at first we couldn't see where it went. Then, we saw it and it was up in the sky very high. We watched it for several minutes until we couldn't see it anymore. It was a nice gesture. :)


Monica (H)opeful said...

Very sweet!

I think if you need to talk about it and it helps you in ANY way, then you should keep it up. There will come a time when you don't need it as much, but you need to do what's best for you.

And absolutely, you are considered a mom. You baby may not be here on Earth, but he is very much real!

Monica (H)opeful said...

TAG- you're it! You've been chosent o participate in a meme :-)